But as I got older, I slowly began to learn that there aren’t “two versions” of me at all. There is just one. And if that girl can go out there and dominate, and be confident and resilient on the sporting field, she can damn well do it in everyday life too.
Building confidence is a process. It involves being exposed to difficult and challenging situations, day after day, year after year, and gradually building this understanding that you can overcome things.
When we were kids, mum would try and feed five mouths on $40 a week. I lost both my parents young, I’ve been through a divorce, I’ve been really sick, I had my son premature and now he’s been diagnosed with type 1 diabetes. I’ve dealt with a lot of difficult things in my life. And I don’t believe for a second that I deserved it, but I do believe I’ve been dealt these things because I can handle it.
I think, when it comes to confidence, that a lot of us believe that you need to be confident before you do something difficult or challenging. When really, I think confidence comes from exposing ourselves to difficult or challenging situations.
When my son was first diagnosed with diabetes, it was a shock to the system, and there was this whole grieving process. I tried to explain how I felt, but I couldn’t. It was such a lot to take in – having to give him insulin, having to monitor him to make sure his blood sugars don’t drop, it was a lot. And of course, I was terrified. It was all so overwhelming.