There should never be a taboo around asking for the help that you need.
I’m married, but I’m not an expert in relationships. If we hit a serious hurdle down the track, I’ll ask for help from a marriage counsellor. When we lost our son Finnan when he was just ten days old, I was experiencing extreme grief that I was not equipped to deal with, so I went to an expert who knew how to help me process my heartbreak.
We’re all wired differently when responding to the pressure, stress and demands of life. We shouldn’t believe that we have all the answers – plus the ability to deal with everything life throws our way – within us.
Sometimes, we need to look outwards. We need to make a choice to reach out and ask for professional help with our mental health and draw on the knowledge and resources that are available to us.
Think of it this way: if you had a broken arm, wouldn’t you go to the ER? We have no problem asking for help with our physical needs, so we should feel comfortable asking for help with our mental and spiritual needs, too.
We’re fortunate in our day and age that when we’re beyond the capacity to deal positively with our own mental wellbeing, there are amazing resources we can access, especially in countries like New Zealand and Australia.